Open your heart to love, and happiness will be everywhere.

Open your heart to love, and happiness is everywhere

Yingcheng Huamo Foreign Language School

Primary School Department Tian Xuelian

Respected leaders teachers 们：

Hello everyone!  

I am the class teacher of Grade 3 的 My name is Tian Xuelian. First of all, I would like to thank the school for providing us with this platform, allowing us to learn from each other and make progress together. I would also like to thank the school leaders for their trust in giving me this valuable opportunity to learn and exchange with everyone. Thank you!

There's a joke online that satirizes the standards of current class teachers: “Able to teach in the classroom, run on the playground, grade homework, write articles hold good class meetings, visit parents, persuade lovers, manage internet use, resolve sadness, break through confusion, hold restless students, control arrogance, investigate cases, and defeat arrogance...” Although there is an element of exaggeration, it does reflect the reality of class teachers today. I am just a simple primary school teacher, like everyone else, working on a humble three-foot platform as a class teacher who sows happiness and enjoys happiness 的班主任。 Although it's tiring, I'm happy; although it's hard, I enjoy it.

1. Multiple forces, cohesion of the class

The famous educational reformer Wei Shusheng once said: A class, when the door is closed, is a big family. If everyone in this family cares for, helps, and encourages each other like brothers and sisters, then it is harmonious and warm.

Our children are all away from their parents, studying and living independently at school. The psychological adaptability of children in boarding schools is one of the key aspects that the class focuses on. For example, among the new students in our class there is a student named “Cai Ni” who quickly 了 caught my attention. ！ In the first few days of joining the class, she was very uncomfortable due to the new classmates, teachers, and environment. She cried every day, From her last semester’s report card I saw that her Chinese and math scores were failing, and they were very low. On the quality report card, the previous first and second-grade teachers even wrote "poor, poor, poor" without mercy in every evaluation item. “差差差” I was very shocked!

Through my observation, she has many bad habits, her red scarf is always dirty, her desk and schoolbag are always messy, and her new books were torn and dirty after less than three days of use. …

In class 时 she is always inattentive, her hands and feet are constantly moving, she doesn't listen carefully, her eyes wander, her handwriting is poor, and when doing homework, she is very slow, sometimes sharpening her pencil, sometimes drawing in her textbook, and she can't finish her homework on time. 。 During breaks, she never dares to look at the teacher; her eyes always dodge cautiously. …It’s clear that she is very timid and inferior.

In order to avoid the new students missing home, I helped them “find good friends” as deskmates to help them adapt to the environment, familiarize themselves with the campus, eat, study, and play together during breaks, and feel the warmth of their new “home”. I can also understand the situation of the new students through their “good friends” and provide comfort; then I organized a heart-to-heart talk for the new students, encouraging them to be strong boys and girls.

After class, the old students helped the new students integrate into a rich collective life: doing sports and playing games during breaks, celebrating birthdays for classmates in the dormitory, showing themselves at class meetings, watching movies in the square and auditorium, participating in sports meetings, June 1st performances, calligraphy and painting competitions, and spring outings. This warm collective atmosphere is conducive to improving children's psychological adaptability.

Slowly, Cai Ni stopped crying.

After the first monthly exam, she came to me nervously with her 52.5-point Chinese test paper 战战兢兢地 and asked with her head down: Teacher, won't you hit me? I looked at her in confusion and said: Why would I hit you? She said: I often get beaten. My mother beats me, my grandmother beats me, and my uncle beats me. Hearing this, I felt very sad. I touched her head and smiled and said: “Although you didn't pass this time, the teacher believes you will pass next time!” At this time, I saw the child shyly smile for the first time.

Later, I proactively contacted the child's mother to understand the situation. When the child was very young, she went out to work, and the child was always raised by her grandmother. She was naughty since childhood, just like a boy, and even fractured her arm due to mischief, and one arm is still bent to this day. In the first and second grades, she was a student who struggled with homework. Because she couldn't concentrate, she would get distracted after doing homework for a while. Every day, she would do homework until eleven or twelve o'clock at night, and her books and homework were always messy in her school bag. Because the school teacher often criticized her and complained to her parents, and the child always remained unrepentant, her family gradually lost patience with her and would often scold and beat her for her disobedience. The mother still cares about the child very, very much, but the family has deeply felt the child's many bad habits, so they are also very distressed. The child's mother helplessly said to me: Teacher, now we don't expect this child to learn how well, as long as she can correct these shortcomings and grow up like a normal child, we will be very grateful.

Based on her characteristics, the classroom requires her to listen attentively. First, starting with her posture, I pay attention to her sitting upright every day, gradually extending the time to train her self-control. In addition, her teammates I urge her to complete her homework in each subject every day.

In every Chinese class, I always ask her to answer some simple questions. Whenever she answers correctly, I always give her a thumbs-up to praise her ; when her handwriting improves, I always give her affirmation in her workbook, constantly giving her confidence. I I encourage her to recite texts, even if it's just paragraph by paragraph. Over time, she began to enjoy Chinese class, and in every Chinese class, she could be seen actively raising her hand to answer questions . She always gives me her classwork to correct in a timely manner. She also proactively took her Chinese textbook to the office and said to me: Teacher, can I recite it to you? After class the teachers of various subjects took time to tutor her . She gradually realized that all the teachers had not given up on her. Here, I sincerely thank every subject teacher in our class! Thank you!

After Behavior In terms of habits, I found that she didn't know how to organize her learning supplies. I asked Cai Ni to actively observe how other students organize their pencil cases and desks. At this time, the role of the class collective was fully utilized. There were always some students who would actively help her organize. She would watch and learn while they helped. I said to her: So many students are helping you organize, you must cherish their labor results! Put away the used stationery and books neatly. Gradually, sometimes she would take the initiative to organize class After tidying her desk, she asked me: Teacher, do you think my desk is tidy today? I happily gave her a thumbs-up!

A childlike smile appeared on her face. She no longer hesitated or dodged when she saw me, but was generous and happy. After that, her studies progressed rapidly, from failing grades before to 86.5 in the mid-term exam. The teacher praised her, and her classmates looked at her with new eyes. During breaks, her classmates were discussing how much she had improved. When the child's mother received her child's mid-term exam paper, her hands trembled with excitement. She held my hand with tears in her eyes and said: " I never thought my child would pass ! Thank you! ”

The strength of the school, teachers, and classmates is closely united, creating infinite possibilities for our class, this big family!

II. Leading by Example, Excellent Class Style

The exemplary role of our teachers is truly significant, especially for elementary school students.

The class I teach first emphasizes handwriting, then homework completion, and finally exam results. When writing on the blackboard, I strictly require myself to write carefully stroke by stroke. Sometimes I let the children evaluate which part of my handwriting is not good, and then let the children express their opinions on how to write beautifully. After a semester, the children's handwriting has made a leap forward.

For example: Sometimes when students read extracurricular books after dinner, I will also hold a book and sit upright in the classroom to read quietly; every day during the big break, when the children tidy up their desks, I will tidy up the things on the teacher's desk and arrange the workbooks and water cups on the cabinet neatly ; when I see scraps of paper on the floor, I bend down to pick them up; every Tuesday during the big cleaning, I take the initiative to pick up the cleaning tools and start cleaning. Our teachers' words and deeds, every move, are seen and remembered by the children.

　　Gradually, the children have subtly changed: many students are immersed in the world of books during breaks; after reading "Water Margin" in the class library, they often discuss which Liangshan heroes there are after class; Peng Heze, whose handwriting was so bad that even his father said he wanted to beat him every time he saw it, gradually showed interest in handwriting. Not only did his handwriting become neat, but he also secretly practiced calligraphy, in the first semester, he also participated in the elementary school handwriting competition ； The taciturn student Fang Jiabiao actively carried 了 Sun Li, who had a twisted ； Peng Sirui helped the short Liu Jiayu carry their luggage to take the school bus. Chen Yuxi actively held an umbrella for his classmates when it rained, Lu Bowen helped his classmates tie sweatbands during every PE class, and Liu Ziyan always silently arranged the classmates' water cups in order of height; Students such as Qiu Yuze and Chen Yuxin took the initiative to work together to firmly attach the loose sign on the corridor. Cheng Sihao, who actively takes care of the classroom plants, wrote down his wish: to become a teacher when he grows up, which moved me to tears. Sometimes, a teacher's simple act of crouching down or bending over speaks volumes more than 100 lectures. Got Many!

Three, Understand with care and Differentiated Instruction

　　 When taking over a new class, thoroughly researching and understanding each child, clarifying their interests, personality traits, learning attitudes, basic knowledge, health status, and family circumstances is a basic requirement for differentiated instruction. I believe that only by following this principle can we provide the most suitable education for children.

When I first took over this class a child named Yang Ruichen gave me a "welcome gift"—he got into three fights in one week. After being reprimanded, he nonchalantly put his hands in his pockets, showing an indifferent attitude. His behavior during breaks was even more worrying, with students constantly reporting him for bullying or fighting. When he was sent to my office again for talking back to a teacher, and other subject teachers reported similar issues, I felt I needed to find a solution for this "difficult" student.

I observed him for a while and found that he often kept to himself, immersed in his own world, and seemed disdainful of his classmates. He would resort to violence when he disliked other students' behavior, talk back to teachers or walk away when reprimanded, and couldn't get along with his classmates. In class, he would interrupt frequently, disliked studying, and his handwriting was sloppy and perfunctory.

"Hard work pays off." During a parent-teacher meeting, I spoke with his father and learned that his father was busy with business, his mother was often abroad, and he lacked parental care. His grandfather usually stayed home and indulged his every whim. However, he often spoke to his grandfather in an extremely rude and agitated manner. From a young age, whenever he encountered setbacks, he would vent his frustration by throwing tantrums, always ending with him getting his way. Through repeated aggressive behavior, he tasted success, but his personality became eccentric.

Due to his grandparents' excessive indulgence, this child developed bad habits of being overbearing, willful, and selfish. He disliked studying and didn't get along well with his classmates, so his previous teachers and classmates didn't like him, and he lost confidence in himself, leading him to give up and do as he pleased.

In later communications with his parents, I learned that Yang Ruichen was actually a very sensible child, but lacked guidance and parental love due to his parents' long-term separation. He deeply craved parental love, encouragement, and trust, hoping they wouldn't give up on him. His disruptive behavior was merely an attempt to attract attention. So at school his "unique" behavior was an attempt to gain attention from teachers and classmates, seeking psychological balance.

Hearing this, I was shocked. This child's young heart lacked attention, explaining his constant gloom. As his homeroom teacher, I had a responsibility to dispel the shadows in his heart with the sunshine of love.  

I contacted his father and grandfather, hoping they would cooperate with the teacher to correct his shortcomings. Home education should establish principles, teaching him that breaking rules leads to appropriate consequences. No matter how much he throws a tantrum or cries, the educational principles should not be compromised, avoiding repeated concessions and appeasement.

Since he was in my class, I had to accept him wholeheartedly, discover his strengths, and praise him promptly, such as improvement in handwriting or classroom discipline. I used this as a starting point to motivate his learning, letting him do things he enjoyed.

Taking advantage of his height, I gave him an opportunity to shine by letting him participate in the school's sports meet shot put event. He won second place, bringing honor to the class. When he returned victorious, I led the applause, and the classmates joined in. He jumped for joy, excitedly saying he almost won first place.

After this achievement, I noticed his active participation in labor, often taking the initiative to sweep the corridor. I seized the opportunity and appointed him as the group leader for cleaning duty. Each time, he led his group to clean the classroom thoroughly. In class, I praised and encouraged him in front of the whole class. Unintentionally, I noticed a pleasant change. Once, I asked the class who would help clean the office, and he eagerly raised his hand, looking at me excitedly. His eyes showed his willingness to do it, and I was deeply moved. My efforts were finally paying off.

He gradually corrected some of his bad habits, stopped causing trouble during breaks, and his classmates gradually warmed up to him. He gradually made friends in the class.

Then I held a class meeting, asking students to talk about the changes in others and how to be a likable person. When he heard his classmates' praise, he was happily embarrassed.

When his confidence grew, I often talked to him after class. When I saw his essay that read, " Mom, you must be making a lot of money in the Philippines! But I haven't seen you in a year, I really hope you don't go so far away, can stay home and accompany me

" I gently hugged him… In addition, I frequently asked him questions in class, gave him various class responsibilities, and let him participate in various activities. Since then, he has changed significantly, and his academic performance has greatly improved. In the first semester's final exam, he scored 96 in Chinese and 98 in math. Seeing the child open his heart and become more confident, I felt incredibly happy!

Four ： Using sincerity as a thread, connecting with parents

Some say that building good relationships with parents is a key to successful education and an essential skill for successful class teachers. For children, my goals are: proactive, studious, capable, and talented, while When communicating with parents, I strive to be "sincere, enthusiastic, proactive, and friendly." At the first parent meeting, I sincerely said to each parent: "Once children come to school, they are not only your children but also mine. I will love our children, and if there are any shortcomings in my work, parents are welcome to communicate with me." These simple and sincere words touched the parents. With the development of society, more and more parents attach importance to their children's education. As long as we are good at communication, more parents will support us, and our work will proceed more smoothly. In the following year, I did exactly that, and the parents went from distrust to heartfelt exchanges. I always proactively share with parents the children's daily life at school, including their food, accommodation, and studies, and I always communicate sincerely with them about their academic progress. I guide parents not to place too much emphasis on scores, but rather on cultivating good habits and stimulating their interests and hobbies, and encourage parents to guide their children in extracurricular reading.

Our parents will see a teacher's personal charm in the details. When we sincerely care for their children, they will surely respect the teacher. I believe that we teachers will become fellow travelers with each parent on the road of education.

Primary school is the foundation of life, and the class teacher is the foundation builder. My experience as a class teacher at other schools has made me deeply realize that the relationship between teachers and students is like an echo chamber: if you call out to the other person with your heart: "I respect you—," then the echo from the other person's heart will be: "I respect you—"; if you call out: "I understand you—," the other person's echo will also be: "I understand you—"; if you call out: "I hate you—," the other person's echo will definitely not be: "I love you—." I don't have any tear-jerking stories to emulate, nor any earth-shattering feats to boast about. As an ordinary class teacher, much of our happiness comes from our students. Who in the world can possess the love of so many children? Only we, we are teachers, we are class teachers!

Dear teachers, open your hearts to love, and happiness will be everywhere! I wish you all good health and a pleasant work! My sharing ends here, thank you!